Comments on: To Hug Or Not To Hug… http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 22:28:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jean http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/comment-page-1/#comment-41281 Jean Mon, 29 Sep 2008 10:56:38 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/#comment-41281 I have been going to go to self help 12 Step programs, for over 20 years. We had great recovery without all these hugs hoisted on us. Close friends might hug but it was always done in a respectful polite way and one could say no thanks. When I turn people down politely now, I get real rude huffy reactions that make me think the potential hugger isn't all that loving. I have been going to go to self help 12 Step programs, for over 20 years. We had great recovery without all these hugs hoisted on us. Close friends might hug but it was always done in a respectful polite way and one could say no thanks. When I turn people down politely now, I get real rude huffy reactions that make me think the potential hugger isn’t all that loving.

]]> By: Michelle in MX http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/comment-page-1/#comment-4147 Michelle in MX Sat, 10 Feb 2007 17:50:24 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/#comment-4147 I know this situation. I am from Minnesota at heart. A formal handshake - maybe, is the norm. Then I've gone to Mexico where it is custimary to grab a hand and kiss cheeks. One cheek. And I've grown accustom to that. But now - I go to MN to visit people and I have on occasion grabbed a hand and offered a cheak - so in sort - forcing a cheek kissing. Weird. So then I have often appologiezed . . um, sorry for eliciting your kiss . . .um it's what we do in Mexico . . .um - he he he . I know this situation. I am from Minnesota at heart. A formal handshake – maybe, is the norm. Then I’ve gone to Mexico where it is custimary to grab a hand and kiss cheeks. One cheek. And I’ve grown accustom to that. But now – I go to MN to visit people and I have on occasion grabbed a hand and offered a cheak – so in sort – forcing a cheek kissing. Weird. So then I have often appologiezed . . um, sorry for eliciting your kiss . . .um it’s what we do in Mexico . . .um – he he he .

]]> By: Jenny http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/comment-page-1/#comment-4146 Jenny Sat, 10 Feb 2007 13:11:29 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/#comment-4146 Another uptight germophobe with personal space issues here. I won my hug-shake standoff with the guy at church, though. He was even coming in with arms wipe open but had to yield to the out-thrust hand about to jab him in the stomach had he not put those arms down. ... Really enjoyed the post. Another uptight germophobe with personal space issues here. I won my hug-shake standoff with the guy at church, though. He was even coming in with arms wipe open but had to yield to the out-thrust hand about to jab him in the stomach had he not put those arms down. … Really enjoyed the post.

]]> By: GiBee http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/comment-page-1/#comment-4145 GiBee Fri, 09 Feb 2007 16:18:08 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/#comment-4145 Unfortunately for you ... I'm a hugger... but ... when we met in October, I sort of got the "I'm not a hugger" vibe from you, and funny enough ... from Carol! So I hope I was respectful of that (I can't remember so many little details like that from so far back). Some people are huggers, and some aren't. It's what makes the world go around. In my case, hugging is a sign of affection, and sadly, I'm affectionate with everyone. Sorry non-huggie people! I'll try to be more thoughtful. Actually, in all honesty, if I'm meeting someone at a restaurant or something like that (or even at church), I will normally just place my hand on their shoulder or arm and give it a gentle squeeze instead of an all-out hug. I think it's less invasive or "in-your-space/face" yet shows care. What are your thoughts on the hand on shoulder, gentle squeeze/pat move? Unfortunately for you … I’m a hugger… but … when we met in October, I sort of got the “I’m not a hugger” vibe from you, and funny enough … from Carol! So I hope I was respectful of that (I can’t remember so many little details like that from so far back). Some people are huggers, and some aren’t. It’s what makes the world go around.

In my case, hugging is a sign of affection, and sadly, I’m affectionate with everyone. Sorry non-huggie people! I’ll try to be more thoughtful.

Actually, in all honesty, if I’m meeting someone at a restaurant or something like that (or even at church), I will normally just place my hand on their shoulder or arm and give it a gentle squeeze instead of an all-out hug. I think it’s less invasive or “in-your-space/face” yet shows care.

What are your thoughts on the hand on shoulder, gentle squeeze/pat move?

]]> By: Marie-No http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/comment-page-1/#comment-4144 Marie-No Fri, 09 Feb 2007 05:44:48 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/#comment-4144 XXXOOO (will this do?) XXXOOO (will this do?)

]]> By: kim http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/comment-page-1/#comment-4143 kim Fri, 09 Feb 2007 02:34:12 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/#comment-4143 I can't stop hugging my kids and family, but I am a cold fish with everyone else. I can’t stop hugging my kids and family, but I am a cold fish with everyone else.

]]> By: Linda http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/comment-page-1/#comment-4142 Linda Thu, 08 Feb 2007 21:23:50 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/#comment-4142 One of the outstanding memories of our trip to France (where we stayed with a family there for a week) was that every time you came and went you kissed each cheek three times. kiss-kiss-kiss-kiss-kiss-kiss. I was always worried I'd miscalculate!! Wonderful post - as usual. One of the outstanding memories of our trip to France (where we stayed with a family there for a week) was that every time you came and went you kissed each cheek three times. kiss-kiss-kiss-kiss-kiss-kiss. I was always worried I’d miscalculate!!
Wonderful post – as usual.

]]> By: tongue in cheek http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/comment-page-1/#comment-4141 tongue in cheek Thu, 08 Feb 2007 16:09:41 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/#comment-4141 Bonjour (we'll skip the French way of double kiss on the cheeks.) I am visiting from the SHARE THE LOVE BLOG AWARDS in which you are a finalist. Congratulations! Your blog and style of writing is wickedly funny! I laughed out loud on this post! If ever you should come to France I promise I'll just wave! Bonjour (we’ll skip the French way of double kiss on the cheeks.) I am visiting from the SHARE THE LOVE BLOG AWARDS in which you are a finalist. Congratulations! Your blog and style of writing is wickedly funny! I laughed out loud on this post!
If ever you should come to France I promise I’ll just wave!

]]> By: Sally http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/comment-page-1/#comment-4140 Sally Thu, 08 Feb 2007 14:53:18 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/#comment-4140 Wow, you are a LOT like me!! I am not a hugger or kisser (unless it is with my husband or children only) otherwise, I prefer my personal space. I've been told I am a "stiff" hugger! I am also a huge germophobe and always wash my hands after I have been anywhere outside of my house, and make my kids do it too. They roll their eyes about it, but they know I won't let up until I actually see them wash!! Wow, you are a LOT like me!! I am not a hugger or kisser (unless it is with my husband or children only) otherwise, I prefer my personal space. I’ve been told I am a “stiff” hugger! I am also a huge germophobe and always wash my hands after I have been anywhere outside of my house, and make my kids do it too. They roll their eyes about it, but they know I won’t let up until I actually see them wash!!

]]> By: Jennifer http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/comment-page-1/#comment-4139 Jennifer Thu, 08 Feb 2007 12:43:04 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/02/06/to-hug-or-not-to-hug/#comment-4139 There is also an added complexity to the European cheek-kiss. Some cultures do two, and some do three. The first time we visited my husband's "second parents" (his high school exchange-student parents) in the Netherlands, his "mom" warned me, took a firm grip on my shoulders, and away we went...right, left, right. Or was it left, right, left? There is also an added complexity to the European cheek-kiss. Some cultures do two, and some do three. The first time we visited my husband’s “second parents” (his high school exchange-student parents) in the Netherlands, his “mom” warned me, took a firm grip on my shoulders, and away we went…right, left, right. Or was it left, right, left?

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