Subtlety in conversation is not an area in which I excel. I am the first one to admit that.
Separate from the issues of tact and judgement, I find it excruciatingly difficult to not be plain spoken, direct, forthright. Sometimes I say things even before I think of them.
However. I am learning from my husband that when hoping to win mind share, especially in matters of faith, that it is far, far better to carry someone along than to hit them directly over the head and drag them. Sometimes to stand down is to stand up.
He must increase, but I must decrease. John 3:30
Far too often, when the message of the Gospel is not well received, we Christians whine about being persecuted and rejected for speaking the truth while taking no responsibility for how badly we have delivered the message.
No heart was ever won with a club, no matter how well intended the club weilder.