Comments on: The Negotiator http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:41:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: your other jewish mother http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/comment-page-1/#comment-10418 your other jewish mother Sun, 26 Aug 2007 01:33:54 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/#comment-10418 It is difficult when preschools have this requirement--I am an early childhood director and it is not the philosophy where I work. That being said,one of my very experienced teachers swears by the book "Toilet Teaching" Keep at it, and Sean will get there. If the school is completely intolerant of accidents, you might want to look at other preschools. Sheila--if your son gets kicked out of school for encopresis, that could be considered discrimination. There are schools that are more inclusive and will work with you to increase success and dignity for your child. I recieved a call the other day from a parent who told me about a preschool that charged extra for children who were not totally trained or had mild disabilities. This is not the philosophy that I hold--we are inclusive. Anyone want to join us the 'burbs of Chicago? It is difficult when preschools have this requirement–I am an early childhood director and it is not the philosophy where I work. That being said,one of my very experienced teachers swears by the book “Toilet Teaching” Keep at it, and Sean will get there. If the school is completely intolerant of accidents, you might want to look at other preschools.
Sheila–if your son gets kicked out of school for encopresis, that could be considered discrimination. There are schools that are more inclusive and will work with you to increase success and dignity for your child. I recieved a call the other day from a parent who told me about a preschool that charged extra for children who were not totally trained or had mild disabilities.
This is not the philosophy that I hold–we are inclusive. Anyone want to join us the ‘burbs of Chicago?

]]> By: Sheila http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/comment-page-1/#comment-10060 Sheila Tue, 21 Aug 2007 05:20:28 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/#comment-10060 I'm going through some of this right now. My son has encopresis so there is medical stuff involved. I'm afraid he'll get "kicked out" for an accident at school. That will make for some positive school memories (sarcasm). I’m going through some of this right now. My son has encopresis so there is medical stuff involved. I’m afraid he’ll get “kicked out” for an accident at school. That will make for some positive school memories (sarcasm).

]]> By: Poppy http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/comment-page-1/#comment-10031 Poppy Mon, 20 Aug 2007 18:17:05 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/#comment-10031 I wish you much success with the potty training and if you succeed you MUST share with me how you bent that will of I R O N! My granddaughter who will be 3 on 9/9/07 refuses to go potty. She will sit there forever and not go. The minute you give up...she goes. We have tried the bribery...Papa will get you a swing set and slide when you start going to the big girl potty...nada, nary a dribble. Papa will get a puppy when you start wearing big girl panties...sure she'll wear them...and then promptly pee all over Tinkerbell! or Dora, or Cinderella and then wanna know when we're gonna go get the puppy. Uhhh...never? I've tried Reeses Pieces (the only candy she likes) popsicles, new books, coloring books and crayons...you name it, I've tried it. Still no go. I just keep telling myself that she won't go to college in diapers...at least I hope not, she is awfully stubborn *sigh* I wish you much success with the potty training and if you succeed you MUST share with me how you bent that will of I R O N!

My granddaughter who will be 3 on 9/9/07 refuses to go potty. She will sit there forever and not go. The minute you give up…she goes.

We have tried the bribery…Papa will get you a swing set and slide when you start going to the big girl potty…nada, nary a dribble.

Papa will get a puppy when you start wearing big girl panties…sure she’ll wear them…and then promptly pee all over Tinkerbell! or Dora, or Cinderella and then wanna know when we’re gonna go get the puppy. Uhhh…never?

I’ve tried Reeses Pieces (the only candy she likes) popsicles, new books, coloring books and crayons…you name it, I’ve tried it. Still no go.

I just keep telling myself that she won’t go to college in diapers…at least I hope not, she is awfully stubborn *sigh*

]]> By: catherine http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/comment-page-1/#comment-9876 catherine Fri, 17 Aug 2007 16:27:02 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/#comment-9876 <p>Somehow I get the feeling that we forgot how it was when we were kids (us older girls out there). It was a trip to Switzerland looking for Pampers that started them in that region. All they had were some kind of pads to fit inside the cloth diapers. What I am saying is that there wasn't all that pressure about potty training or walking in that matter. Well that's another subject...</p> Somehow I get the feeling that we forgot how it was when we were kids (us older girls out there). It was a trip to Switzerland looking for Pampers that started them in that region. All they had were some kind of pads to fit inside the cloth diapers. What I am saying is that there wasn’t all that pressure about potty training or walking in that matter. Well that’s another subject…

]]> By: Lari http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/comment-page-1/#comment-9794 Lari Thu, 16 Aug 2007 00:33:19 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/#comment-9794 I have to laugh! I'm on boy#3 in the potty training game...He's 4...He refuses to poop in the potty. Good luck! I hate that they make it mandatory for preschool...kids are all so different. I have to laugh! I’m on boy#3 in the potty training game…He’s 4…He refuses to poop in the potty. Good luck! I hate that they make it mandatory for preschool…kids are all so different.

]]> By: daryl http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/comment-page-1/#comment-9738 daryl Wed, 15 Aug 2007 14:40:28 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/#comment-9738 I have to say peeing in nature was the turning point for my son... he said he wanted to potty train but we sat for hours on the pot reading books with no success. One day we were outside and it was too far to get back inside, so I asked if he wanted to pee in nature... boom, it shifted something in him and we've been going like gang busters ever since. Shame on your preschool for instilling some arbitrary rule regarding potty training. My son's preschool takes the kids back down to the younger kids room for a change. I have to say peeing in nature was the turning point for my son… he said he wanted to potty train but we sat for hours on the pot reading books with no success. One day we were outside and it was too far to get back inside, so I asked if he wanted to pee in nature… boom, it shifted something in him and we’ve been going like gang busters ever since.

Shame on your preschool for instilling some arbitrary rule regarding potty training. My son’s preschool takes the kids back down to the younger kids room for a change.

]]> By: cathy http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/comment-page-1/#comment-9685 cathy Wed, 15 Aug 2007 02:42:45 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/#comment-9685 just out of curiosity, is the new wearer of big boy underwear in a big boy bed yet? you know the big boy pants and the big boy bed probably should go hand-in-hand. just mentioning..... just out of curiosity, is the new wearer of big boy underwear in a big boy bed yet? you know the big boy pants and the big boy bed probably should go hand-in-hand. just mentioning…..

]]> By: AliAnn http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/comment-page-1/#comment-9670 AliAnn Tue, 14 Aug 2007 20:58:05 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/#comment-9670 My daughter was nearing four before she was potty trained and I was about ready to crawl into a hole and give up. The pediatrician finally gave me this method. Prizes are just not important enough to kids. I had to take away something she already had, that she wanted every day. In our case, it was tv and going outside. She had to try to potty 3 times in one day before she got tv or outside time. Even if she wasn't successful, three genuine tries got rewarded. To get the reward quicker, it took one "poo poo" in the potty. It was worth three tries. Peeing only counted as a try because the dr. said if she could poop in the potty, peeing would follow on its own. This worked very quickly for us after over a year of other bribes and insanity. Good luck! I understand that horrible pressure, but hopefully it will be over very soon! My daughter was nearing four before she was potty trained and I was about ready to crawl into a hole and give up.
The pediatrician finally gave me this method. Prizes are just not important enough to kids. I had to take away something she already had, that she wanted every day. In our case, it was tv and going outside. She had to try to potty 3 times in one day before she got tv or outside time. Even if she wasn’t successful, three genuine tries got rewarded. To get the reward quicker, it took one “poo poo” in the potty. It was worth three tries. Peeing only counted as a try because the dr. said if she could poop in the potty, peeing would follow on its own.
This worked very quickly for us after over a year of other bribes and insanity.
Good luck! I understand that horrible pressure, but hopefully it will be over very soon!

]]> By: MsRebecca http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/comment-page-1/#comment-9616 MsRebecca Tue, 14 Aug 2007 12:30:12 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/#comment-9616 Good luck on the training! We always had Brandon make "bubbles" in the potty, he enjoyed doing that and we quite frankly thought it was hilarious, I would say, "See how many bubbles you can make!" Good luck on the training!
We always had Brandon make “bubbles” in the potty, he enjoyed doing that and we quite frankly thought it was hilarious, I would say, “See how many bubbles you can make!”

]]> By: Steffj89 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/comment-page-1/#comment-9600 Steffj89 Tue, 14 Aug 2007 06:45:34 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/2007/08/13/the-negotiator-2/#comment-9600 My oldest was mostly trained when he started school. He didnt want to poop and the first few weeks he had accidents. I had to go to school to change him etc several times, but then he got it all of a sudden and there was no going back. my boys were the opposite of most tho. both were dry thru the night by 18 months. daytime was what was a PITA. my youngest was happy as a clam to go anywhere but on the potty or in his pants...he would strip and go anywhere and i do mean anywhere. it was definitely a blessing during that time to live in the middle of nowhere with other neighbors who have similar aged kids and really didnt care if mine were out back peeing on the grass. or the trees, or the deck, or the dogs, (thank God for water hoses)....T even marked the tires on the blazer while imitating the dogs but in all he trained completely once i took the pull ups away in like 3 days. good luck!! steff My oldest was mostly trained when he started school. He didnt want to poop and the first few weeks he had accidents. I had to go to school to change him etc several times, but then he got it all of a sudden and there was no going back. my boys were the opposite of most tho. both were dry thru the night by 18 months. daytime was what was a PITA. my youngest was happy as a clam to go anywhere but on the potty or in his pants…he would strip and go anywhere and i do mean anywhere. it was definitely a blessing during that time to live in the middle of nowhere with other neighbors who have similar aged kids and really didnt care if mine were out back peeing on the grass. or the trees, or the deck, or the dogs, (thank God for water hoses)….T even marked the tires on the blazer while imitating the dogs but in all he trained completely once i took the pull ups away in like 3 days.
good luck!!
steff

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