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    May 5, 2008

    At four and a half, Sean is getting to the age where his world is rapidly expanding.  Every day, it gets a little more crowded in his world, whereas before, it was just me. I was his whole world.  My starring role in his life is drawing nigh.  I know that.  That’s why I love those times when we are driving in the car.  If only for a few miles, it’s just the two of us.   Plus, he’s strapped in and can’t get away. 

     

    On the way to school on Friday morning, I looked in the rearview mirror at him.  He was unusually contemplative.  He was looking out the window, but at the same time, seemed to be lost in himself. So I seized the opportunity.

     

    “Sean, I love you so very much. Do you know that?” I asked him.

     

    “Yes, I already know that,” he sighed.  “Why do you tell me so much?”

     

    “Well two reasons,” I said.

     

    “First of all I don’t ever want you to forget.  And second of all, I need to tell you.  My heart just overflows with so much love for you that I have to let some out once in awhile.”

     

    “Your heart must really hold a lot,” he said. “Probably about 15 gallons.”

     

    “For you?  Way more than 15 gallons,” I said.

     

    “Do you love me as much water as there is in the ocean?”

     

    “Way more,” I said.

     

    “Oh. Well, you were right then,” he conceded, “That is a lot.”

     

    “Don’t forget that,” I said.

     

    “Okay.  You can remind me again tomorrow if you want.”

     

    “You got it,” I said.

     

     

    Every day.  Until my very last day.  With my very last breath.  I will remind you.

     

    * * *

     

    Other reminders:  You are loved, you are wanted, you were longed for, you are a blessing, you delight me, I’m glad I’m your mom, I like you, you are the apple of my eye, you are God’s unique creation, I enjoy your company…

     

     

    48 Comments »

    1. JCK says:

      Beautiful post, moment, everything. And love the angle of the photograph.

      May 5th, 2008 at 1:29 am

    2. Renna says:

      My son is now 32, and I still regularly tell him I love him. I just can’t help myself. 😉

      May 5th, 2008 at 1:41 am

    3. Betty G. says:

      What a sweet conversation. Enjoy it!

      Betty in Oklahoma

      May 5th, 2008 at 2:03 am

    4. jen elslager says:

      Oohhh. Little heart squeeze…

      Mine are almost grown. I remember…

      May 5th, 2008 at 2:12 am

    5. Photochick (Amanda) says:

      This is just beautiful! Perry & I have already started telling Livia how much we love her (“more than all the stars in the sky!”) even though she may not quite understand just yet…

      Our little “I love you more than…” all started back when my hubby and I were dating. We were sitting on the couch watching a movie, and he said “I love you so much!” I replied, “How much do you love me?” And he said, “I love you more than all those straws I have!” My heart absolutely melted! I know it sounds silly, but he had a LOT of straws! A whole cabinet completely filled up with them!

      Since then, we always say to each other “I love you more than [whatever huge quantity of something cute that we come up with]” And I’m so glad we’re already telling those to Liv as well!

      One day Perry asked me why I can’t get enough of our “I love you more than’s…” And I told him that the very first time he ever told me he loved me more than all those straws, it was so pure, sincere, and innocent. I never wanted to forget that love or innocence.

      AM, thank you SO SO SO much for this wonderful post, and reminding me of my love for my husband and daughter. Your blog is always such a joy for me to read!! Much love to you & yours, take care and God Bless!

      May 5th, 2008 at 2:35 am

    6. Muddy says:

      Very sweet post. Thank you 🙂

      May 5th, 2008 at 2:40 am

    7. tracy @ my cup runneth over says:

      Heart-melt. As a Mom who’s only baby boy is now 19, I can tell you that those little trips in the car will ALWAYS be some of THE best talking times. = ) Precious. Thanks for sharing.

      May 5th, 2008 at 5:14 am

    8. Heidi says:

      Threre you go making me bawl again…

      May 5th, 2008 at 5:35 am

    9. Erin says:

      Those rides in cars. I was alone with my son in my car this weekend, which is a very rare situation. When we stopped at a light I stopped too and looked directly at him. I expected his to say, “WAATTT?” Instead, he said, “Ya, mom, I know, I like being with you just the two of us, too.” These little boys in cars…

      May 5th, 2008 at 6:52 am

    10. Megan (FriedOkra) says:

      I’m with Heidi – pass the tissues! 🙂

      May 5th, 2008 at 7:03 am

    11. Terri says:

      What a sweet post. What a sweet and intelligent boy Sean must be. Sometimes I just look at my girls and I’m overwhelmed by my love for them that, as you said, it just spills out. I wish I could adequately convey to them how blessed they are to have a such a loving family in which to grow up. They take it for granted I’m sure because that’s all they’ve known. Eventually they’ll realize that not every kid is so blessed and that there are some children out there who don’t know how much their parents love them.

      May 5th, 2008 at 7:28 am

    12. Antique Mommy says:

      Oh Terri, I know. And then there are children out there who are not loved and wanted by their parents. Nothing breaks my heart more.

      May 5th, 2008 at 7:33 am

    13. Howdy says:

      AM – If we could just bottle and share a tiny bit of that kind of Mommy Love… well – the world would be a much better place for millions of kids.

      Another day started with a tissue in hand… one of these days I’m gonna just grab one before I click on your blog and save myself a trip.

      May 5th, 2008 at 7:44 am

    14. Sue Cramer says:

      So precious.
      I’ll never forget the day my oldest turned 16 and he didn’t need a ride to or from school anymore.

      I thought it would be so nice not to have to drive him anymore…until it happened.

      Cherish every moment.

      May 5th, 2008 at 7:50 am

    15. heidi says:

      Before my son got his driver’s license, I treasured every moment in the car with him. His school was 7 miles away and I loved the mornings I drove him to school or picked him up because that was time for just the two of us.
      Even now as my son leaves with his teenage friends I say “I love you.” And he says “Bye mom. Love You.” I feel so blessed that he says that to me in front of his buddies.
      I know you cherish your son so completely. Thanks for sharing him with us.

      May 5th, 2008 at 8:07 am

    16. Barbara H. says:

      Car conversations are some of the best. For a long time that was the only time my middle one opened up at all.

      What a sweet exchange!

      May 5th, 2008 at 8:08 am

    17. Wendy says:

      That was so sweet!

      May 5th, 2008 at 8:12 am

    18. Apathy Lounge says:

      Even when he towers over you he will always look like this photo…in your heart. I know this is true because I live it every day.

      May 5th, 2008 at 8:31 am

    19. Sarah says:

      Oh so sweet! Baby boy love is a crazy thing.

      May 5th, 2008 at 8:40 am

    20. Cheryl says:

      What a sweet post! My boys are 12 and 19, and they still tell me that they love me…and it still melts my heart every. single. time. There’s just something about little boys…even after they grow up to be big boys.

      May 5th, 2008 at 8:50 am

    21. Shawna says:

      My Mom will usually ask me this a few times a week. This is how it goes:

      Mom: Do you know who loves you?
      Me: My Mom and my Dad
      Mom: That’s right! We love you SO much…

      Or some variation of that and I’m 30, going on 31. It never gets old to hear, because I love them too, with all my heart.

      May 5th, 2008 at 9:19 am

    22. Sarah S. says:

      It won’t end (thankfully) quite as quickly as you think. My 10 year old (boy — my daughter wasn’t/ isn’t this way) still adores me and loves to hear how much I adore him. I know my days are numbered, but I won’t give it up!

      May 5th, 2008 at 9:20 am

    23. CircusKelli says:

      EVERYONE needs those kinds of reminders daily, if not more often than that.

      May 5th, 2008 at 9:26 am

    24. Melissa says:

      My son is 10, and I suspect I may still have the “starring role” in his life, although it gets harder and harder for him to show it. Oh how hard it gets to resist grabbing his still-little hand in Walmart…that would be too embarrassing for him!

      The incredible thing is that sometimes when I express my love for him (or how I will never forget to pick him up from school, or how he is a blessing to me)
      that God directs my own words back at me and tells me, “This is how I feel about you”

      May 5th, 2008 at 10:23 am

    25. Fraulein says:

      Wonderful. This is exactly how I feel about my Peanut. And I love my talks with her in the car too!

      May 5th, 2008 at 11:27 am

    26. Jenny says:

      What a precious moment! You are an awesome mom. Sean is a sweet boy.

      May 5th, 2008 at 12:15 pm

    27. Jenn @ Casa de Castro says:

      At age 46, I still relish hearing those precious words from my mom AND my dad. There is no greater gift and no greater affirmation for a child. Thank you this reminder that I, too, am loved!

      May 5th, 2008 at 12:28 pm

    28. Linda says:

      What a beautiful post especially …with Mothers Day on Sunday. Precious. So sweet.

      May 5th, 2008 at 1:42 pm

    29. Kacey says:

      It never stops, AM — you will feel the same way in forty years, but sometimes I think early childhood is the best time — when they still fit on your lap. I remember the feel of tiny arms around my neck and the smell of a baby’s neck — I wish I could have a mulligan. Sean is such a beautiful little boy — thanks for sharing him with us.

      May 5th, 2008 at 1:52 pm

    30. Roses ArePink2 says:

      You speak for so many of us. My 25 year old son just called me up to say “I love you” and he doesn’t mind saying it in front of his fiancee, or his buddies. He still makes my heart overflow with love, as does my daughter. They both ALWAYS end a conversation with me “I love you” and I NEVER get tired of hearing it. (There was a brief teenage period when that was not the case but it, too, passes quickly). My heart holds onto those long ago childhood memories but the grownup ones make you proud and fulfilled! Every stage has its own joys.

      May 5th, 2008 at 2:10 pm

    31. sheilah says:

      You know, I was thinking the very same thing this morning on the way to work; how very much I love my son. If I told him every minute of every day it still wouldn’t be often enough to fully express my joy in him and being with him and in being his mom.

      May 5th, 2008 at 2:19 pm

    32. Blog Antagonist says:

      We have some of our most satisfying talks in the car. I chuckled at 15 gallons.

      May 5th, 2008 at 3:02 pm

    33. Faerylandmom says:

      These kinds of moments are so precious…they really do make up for all of “those” days. More than make up for them, really. 🙂

      May 5th, 2008 at 3:32 pm

    34. Amanda - VintageDutchGirl says:

      More than the ocean… so true 🙂

      May 5th, 2008 at 6:05 pm

    35. Angie says:

      Sweet, sweet, sweet. My little guy asks the same thing. Then he stretches his arms out with all his might and asks, “Do you love me this much?” If only he had any idea just how much.
      BTW, if your little guy needs a toy tractor, I am giving one away on my blog! 🙂

      May 5th, 2008 at 6:37 pm

    36. Susan says:

      That is so beautiful!

      May 5th, 2008 at 6:56 pm

    37. Angela says:

      Precious. Every moment counts and you can never say it too much.

      May 5th, 2008 at 7:01 pm

    38. Gwen says:

      What you wrote about your feelings for Sean are exactly how I feel about my son, Carter (3 1/2yo). My favorite way to tell him I love him is to “ambush” him when he’s quietly (or not so quietly) playing with something. Then I wrap my arms around him and give him a big smooch on the cheek. His reply is always, “I wuv you too, Mommy”.

      May 5th, 2008 at 7:22 pm

    39. Wendy Goldstein says:

      my 4 year old always asks me what mommy love means. I tell her that mommy love is when a mommy wants your brain to be stimulated, your tummy to be full, your body to be safe, your heart to be happy and that I can’t live without her! She can recite this verbatim!

      she is very spontaneously lovey in that sweet little way.

      http://www.swirlgirlspearls.blogspot.com

      May 5th, 2008 at 7:39 pm

    40. Tom says:

      Michael often asks why his mommy wants to kiss and snuggle him so much. I tell him that mommies are made up of kisses and love, so you have to feed them that. And then if he acts like he’s not going to let her kiss him then I get to sneak in and get the kiss. Works every time.

      May 5th, 2008 at 7:46 pm

    41. Kelly @ Love Well says:

      At least once a day, my husband will ask our six-year-old daughter, “Who’s my favorite girl in the whole world?”

      She sighs and ever-so-slightly rolls her eyes and says, “Da-ad, you always ask me that!”

      But she knows who it is. And she feels our love. It surrounds her like water surrounds a fish.

      May 5th, 2008 at 10:25 pm

    42. Moriah @ Please Pass the Salt says:

      Wow, I had to do a little double-take. My 4-year-old has the same color of hair, cut similarly, and he has that exact same shirt.

      And, so you’ll understand why I have tears springing to my eyes. 🙂

      May 5th, 2008 at 11:42 pm

    43. Lauren M says:

      Those last little reminders at the end of your post…they are what God the Father says to each of His children. Because, as Brennan Manning put it, God not only loves us, He LIKES us. Cool truth, eh?

      May 6th, 2008 at 1:06 am

    44. Just D says:

      …can you only imagine the world if EVERY small child was ‘reminded’ daily that they are loved, wanted, treasured…? You Rock A.M.

      May 6th, 2008 at 3:15 am

    45. Nikolaj says:

      What a great kid!

      May 6th, 2008 at 6:00 am

    46. Nett says:

      Now why did I bother to put on mascara this morning?

      May 6th, 2008 at 9:31 am

    47. Trish says:

      All of you mom’s out there always cherish your kids because you are so lucky to have that in your life. I had 2 girls that died when they were very young, and you never know when it is the end.

      May 6th, 2008 at 5:32 pm

    48. Carrie says:

      As always, you brought me to tears (not that it takes much). Just tonight as my hubby was speaking at a church’s AWANA group, I was holding my 5-month-old and my heart just overflowed with love for him- our ‘babies’ are such blessings! 🙂

      May 6th, 2008 at 10:54 pm

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