Always Real, Faith


When I started dating Antique Daddy, every time we had a date, I would run out and buy a new outfit.


I wanted him to really really like me.  How could he possibly really really like me if I were wearing something he had seen me wearing before?  I wanted to look my best and wearing something new made me feel good and made me feel confident.


As I got ready for the She Speaks conference in North Carolina, I of course wanted to buy a new outfit because I wanted everyone to really really like me. I wanted to look my best and feel confident.  Going to this conference was like going on a date with 550 women.  As I type these words, I am fully aware of how crazy that sounds but I also know, ladies, that you know of what I speak.


The month before the conference, I went to my sister-in-law Annette who has a fabulous boutique filled with gorgeous things and she fixed me up with a nice business casual outfit — a Nic and Zoe crocheted sweater and matching pants.  The sweater was a splurge, but it was perfect for the conference because first and foremost, it was cute. Second, it’s always cold in the hotels but hot outside, so layering was a good choice. 


For the month before the conference my expensive Nic and Zoe sweater hung in my closet and I gazed lovingly upon it. Sometimes I would even walk clear across the house to my closet just to look at it, like I was checking on sleeping baby.  I would imagine myself striding confidently around the Charlotte Embassy Suites where publishers and agents would throw themselves at my feet with book contracts  — because certainly anyone wearing a sweater as cute as that should be given a book contract.  That’s how it works in the world of publishing. I think that’s how it happened for J.K. Rowling.


On the big day of the conference, I did wear the sweater and it was cute and it kept me warm in cold hotel.  But it snagged on everything but air.  It snagged on my purse, it snagged on my bag, it snagged on the clasps on my pants, it snagged on my folder and my ink pen.  I don’t know how many times I had to beg the poor soul sitting next to me to separate me and my sweater from whatever it had glommed onto.  By the end of the day, this sweater looked like something the lawn mower had spit out. 


But I really didn’t care.  Although my sweater was frayed, my confidence was intact.  You see, I learned long ago that while I enjoy new and pretty things, sweaters and the other things of this world will sooner or later, ravel and fray, disappoint and fail.  Even people who not only really really like me but love me, will ultimately fail me — if for no other reason than that someday they will die.


My confidence comes not from what I wear but from the knowledge of Whose I am.



29 thoughts on “Snagged

  1. Ah. I was hoping you were going where you went with this post. (That was quite ambiguous wasn’t it.) I guess what I meant was I loved the end of this post. And me too. At least that’s what I am striving for.

  2. I love the end of this post, too, but I must confirm one critical piece of information: that sweater was fabulous. I thought about it many times today. The colors were perfection.

  3. Sorry, you lost me — you were in my neighborhood? Because I didn’t see you here. Therefore I must conclude you didn’t call me to let me know you were here. Which I know you wouldn’t do becuase you love me so. So…I’m confused and can’t process the rest of your post.

  4. I was sitting beside you on one of those times you “snagged” on your purse. 🙂 But your sweater was lovely, the whole ensemble was. I’m sure nobody noticed but you.
    It was a pleasure to meet you!

  5. Because you know Whose you are, you are far more beautiful than a beautiful sweater (though I’m sure you were even more lovely in it pre-snagging). Thanks for letting us come along!

  6. What a wonderful post. I love the ending, and know you mean it. 🙂

    Now, I’m off to Dawn’s to see those fabulous shoes, and well, you in them, of course. 😉

  7. This is proof that you are far more evolved than I, because my confidence totally comes from how dorky I feel, or not. Which of course sometimes has nothing at all to do with what I’m wearing.

  8. LOL about dating 550 women!! I never put as much thought into my outfits as I do before a blogging function.

    And also. I noticed that outfit and that gorgeous sweater. I had just sat through a What Not To Wear session, and I remember thinking how perfect it was for you – the colors, the textures, everything. Gorgeous. Too bad it didn’t wear well.

  9. The conference sounds so amazing. I have been reading all you “girls'” posts about your trip and it sounds like so much fun. I am sure your speaking was wonderful and hopefully your sweater survived at least some of all that snagging! 🙂

  10. Isn’t that what we are all after?? Unfailing love that only God can give. That– and a fabulous sweater…

  11. Dawn’s right. That sweater was awesome! (And your hair looked really fabulous too. Bonus.)

    I’m so glad that you went AM. You’re so incredibly likable and fun that I can’t see why anyone wouldn’t love you on sight. I did, so I can only imagine these other fabulous women seeing the beauty in you that has nothing to do with what you’re wearing.

    Confidence looks really good on you. You wear it really well.

  12. I bet it was cute. Even if it gave you lots of problems take comfort knowing it will die a thousand deaths in your sweater grave.

  13. “Going to the conference was like a date with 550 women.”

    Yes, I DO know that of which you speak. If I were the callin’ sort, I would have definitely called you the next day, or at least the next week;).

    Because you understood perfectly what I mean when I said I was a “Christian who blogs” not a “Christian blogger”.

    Once again, I loved your closing line.

  14. This story had me laughing out loud…and I’m at I know there are probably some people down the hall that are wondering what is happening in my office! I loved that sweater! I remember thinking that was such a cute outfit. I enjoyed meeting you and look forward to reading more of your funny and inspiring writing!


  15. And one of your books I’m looking forward to buying is a devotional book for moms. Simple, straightforward and wonderful to read yet so full thoughts that moms need so often to remember and ponder through their day.

  16. It was great to meet you at She Speaks and I didn’t even notice any snags. I have to admit that I, too, put much thought into outfits, accessories, etc. But in the end, you are so right about the priorities, as usual!

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