Comments on: The Toy http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/ Tue, 16 Mar 2010 20:22:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Are we there yet? http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/comment-page-1/#comment-48750 Are we there yet? Tue, 21 Apr 2009 20:17:25 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/?p=4782#comment-48750 [...] The Toy I can’t even express how much I agree with this, & how much it touched me [...] [...] The Toy I can’t even express how much I agree with this, & how much it touched me [...]

]]> By: Worshipfan http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/comment-page-1/#comment-48336 Worshipfan Fri, 03 Apr 2009 16:47:10 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/?p=4782#comment-48336 Wow...that's a tough one. I think letting him make that decision - whether good or bad was a great choice. Sometimes, having our hearts broken a bit by the weight of our bad decisions helps mold us into the image of Jesus just a little bit more. I think the precious response of his heart is HOPE that he will take on that burden for justice in some way. Well done. Wow…that’s a tough one. I think letting him make that decision – whether good or bad was a great choice. Sometimes, having our hearts broken a bit by the weight of our bad decisions helps mold us into the image of Jesus just a little bit more.

I think the precious response of his heart is HOPE that he will take on that burden for justice in some way.

Well done.

]]> By: Jennifer http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/comment-page-1/#comment-48332 Jennifer Fri, 03 Apr 2009 16:27:21 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/?p=4782#comment-48332 As a follow up to my comment yesterday (b/c it's so hard to know a person's tone when you're just reading something they wrote), I wanted to make it clear that I wasn't disagreeing with how you handled the situation. I just meant that I bet now that he's aware of the ministry (and of how he felt when he made a decision he regretted), he will be eager to save his happy meal toys for others. Maybe it will inspire in him a desire to give to others that he would not have had if he hadn't had this experience. BTW - I love your kid. He seems so tender-hearted and I imagine he's going to turn out very nicely. :) As a follow up to my comment yesterday (b/c it’s so hard to know a person’s tone when you’re just reading something they wrote), I wanted to make it clear that I wasn’t disagreeing with how you handled the situation.

I just meant that I bet now that he’s aware of the ministry (and of how he felt when he made a decision he regretted), he will be eager to save his happy meal toys for others. Maybe it will inspire in him a desire to give to others that he would not have had if he hadn’t had this experience.

BTW – I love your kid. He seems so tender-hearted and I imagine he’s going to turn out very nicely. :)

]]> By: AM http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/comment-page-1/#comment-48319 AM Fri, 03 Apr 2009 15:36:31 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/?p=4782#comment-48319 Smile!! And be proud of the lesson you taught your child. Whether the means justify the end is up to you, but from your story one thing is certain, you planted a seed "A CHARITABLE Spirit" into your son that will grow with him. While he may not have been able to immediately conceptualize what you were saying as you said it, in his little mind he in his own little way he got it! The sadness he felt shows that he is not desensitized...In a world that teaches instant self gratification without consequence you taught the LOVE of God! As a result, in the future your child may decide for himself that he wants to give the toy. Maybe in this situation going forward, the choice should be his. Some days he might keep it and you may be disappointed but imagine how proud you will feel on the days he says "No mommy, I don't want it...give it Dr. B" You have instilled a great quality in your child at an early age. That is something to be proud of!! * * * <em>"Maybe in this situation going forward, the choice should be his." I'm baffled Marie. The choice was his, it was always his. I felt I made that abundantly clear. He made a choice and then regretted it, hence the remorse.</em> Smile!! And be proud of the lesson you taught your child. Whether the means justify the end is up to you, but from your story one thing is certain, you planted a seed “A CHARITABLE Spirit” into your son that will grow with him. While he may not have been able to immediately conceptualize what you were saying as you said it, in his little mind he in his own little way he got it! The sadness he felt shows that he is not desensitized…In a world that teaches instant self gratification without consequence you taught the LOVE of God! As a result, in the future your child may decide for himself that he wants to give the toy. Maybe in this situation going forward, the choice should be his. Some days he might keep it and you may be disappointed but imagine how proud you will feel on the days he says “No mommy, I don’t want it…give it Dr. B” You have instilled a great quality in your child at an early age. That is something to be proud of!!

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“Maybe in this situation going forward, the choice should be his.”

I’m baffled Marie. The choice was his, it was always his. I felt I made that abundantly clear. He made a choice and then regretted it, hence the remorse.

]]> By: edj http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/comment-page-1/#comment-48287 edj Fri, 03 Apr 2009 09:48:43 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/?p=4782#comment-48287 Wow. It's pretty cool that he felt the remorse. I would be very encouraged, AM. And this will probably stick in his memory better than if he'd just handed you the toy. We've had our own ups and downs with giving away things. It's a balancing act, this life, this raising of children, this teaching what's important in life. We have the chance to give up a Saturday to go help out at a local orphanage, but I want the kids to want to go. It's not an easy transition. Wow. It’s pretty cool that he felt the remorse. I would be very encouraged, AM. And this will probably stick in his memory better than if he’d just handed you the toy.

We’ve had our own ups and downs with giving away things. It’s a balancing act, this life, this raising of children, this teaching what’s important in life. We have the chance to give up a Saturday to go help out at a local orphanage, but I want the kids to want to go. It’s not an easy transition.

]]> By: diamond http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/comment-page-1/#comment-48281 diamond Fri, 03 Apr 2009 08:01:39 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/?p=4782#comment-48281 Hmm went on and read a few more posts and Steffj89 had the idea for a toy drive so far that makes for two readers on the same page. Can't read all the post. Good Luck Diamond Hmm went on and read a few more posts and Steffj89 had the idea for a toy drive so far that makes for two readers on the same page. Can’t read all the post.
Good Luck
Diamond

]]> By: Diamond http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/comment-page-1/#comment-48279 Diamond Fri, 03 Apr 2009 07:55:11 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/?p=4782#comment-48279 I did not read all the comments,seems about split, many different kinds of "free" advice. This is a thought for Sean, he could start a fast food unopened toy drive. Word spreads and TA DA. One toy that a small child held for his own, becomes many toys for many children. Of course he would need your help and guidance. Something like that would make the little guys heart sing.Even if he only got two donations he would be ahead of the present. Take Care and God Bless Diamond I did not read all the comments,seems about split, many different kinds of “free” advice.
This is a thought for Sean, he could start a fast food unopened toy drive.
Word spreads and TA DA. One toy that a small child held for his own, becomes many toys for many children.
Of course he would need your help and guidance. Something like that would make the little guys heart sing.Even if he only got two donations he would be ahead of the present.
Take Care and God Bless
Diamond

]]> By: Shawna http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/comment-page-1/#comment-48278 Shawna Fri, 03 Apr 2009 06:59:35 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/?p=4782#comment-48278 I love that you wrote "not a solicitation for advice," clarifying that your question was indeed rhetorical. Not that your warning was heeded. :) What a moving story in the midst of the regular day-to-day activities with children. I am struggling with teaching my Kaya to share my views and values right now, and she is sure fighting it, being as headstrong as her momma. She's really reminding me right now that her salvation and her beliefs are in the Lord's hand. Telling her what to believe and what to do is not enough. Just doing what I do and showing her how I live what I believe and praying my little heart out are the only things I can really to. My girls are so in God's hands...thank goodness. But sometimes I sure wish I had more control over them!!! :) shawna-mygirls.blogspot.com I love that you wrote “not a solicitation for advice,” clarifying that your question was indeed rhetorical. Not that your warning was heeded. :)

What a moving story in the midst of the regular day-to-day activities with children. I am struggling with teaching my Kaya to share my views and values right now, and she is sure fighting it, being as headstrong as her momma. She’s really reminding me right now that her salvation and her beliefs are in the Lord’s hand. Telling her what to believe and what to do is not enough. Just doing what I do and showing her how I live what I believe and praying my little heart out are the only things I can really to. My girls are so in God’s hands…thank goodness. But sometimes I sure wish I had more control over them!!! :)

shawna-mygirls.blogspot.com

]]> By: Stretch Mark Mama http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/comment-page-1/#comment-48277 Stretch Mark Mama Fri, 03 Apr 2009 06:23:03 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/?p=4782#comment-48277 You could always stick some cast-aside bread crusts in the bag too and send it off anyway. (*WINK*) Not that you need my approval, but I did like the way you handled that. I'm pretty impressed at Sean's sensitive spirit. You know, I heard something at my adoption training a couple months back. Did you know that a child's "sense of justice" hits high gear around age 10? My 7YO is all about "it's not fair," but that's more about HIM and not THE WORLD. Anyway, I would have guessed the age to be older than 10. The recommendation was to introduce your child to the injustices of the world around this time. Hmm, that's interesting to me. You could always stick some cast-aside bread crusts in the bag too and send it off anyway.

(*WINK*)

Not that you need my approval, but I did like the way you handled that. I’m pretty impressed at Sean’s sensitive spirit.

You know, I heard something at my adoption training a couple months back. Did you know that a child’s “sense of justice” hits high gear around age 10? My 7YO is all about “it’s not fair,” but that’s more about HIM and not THE WORLD. Anyway, I would have guessed the age to be older than 10. The recommendation was to introduce your child to the injustices of the world around this time. Hmm, that’s interesting to me.

]]> By: Southern Fried Gal http://antiquemommy.com/2009/04/02/the-toy/comment-page-1/#comment-48274 Southern Fried Gal Fri, 03 Apr 2009 05:05:32 +0000 http://antiquemommy.com/?p=4782#comment-48274 So sweet. I teared up reading this. So sweet. I teared up reading this.

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