Always Real, Parenting Gone Awry, School

He Speaks

AD and I think it is important for Sean to learn how to stand up and speak in front of others with confidence so that he might grow into a man who can influence others for good, so that he will have the tools to articulate his ideas, dreams and visions with clarity and confidence.  No matter where his life’s journey leads, we think this is a valuable life skill that requires practice more than anything else, and that it’s never too soon to start. Since Sean was about three, we have had what we call…

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Parenting Gone Awry, Silliness

Flailing Not Failing

Sean was born six weeks early and spent the first week of his life in the NICU.  He was teeny tiny, but was never in any danger, other than being sent home to live with two clueless people. Before we left the hospital, the nurse showed me the proper way to wrap my baby in a blanket. She stressed the importance of keeping his arms tucked in tight at all times. She said he was used to be being curled up in the confines of my womb and he would prefer being swaddled.  She said that…

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Antique Daddy, Parenting Gone Awry, Sometimes Tart

The New Bed

Recently I acquired a twin bed for Sean.  Heretofore, the poor giraffe-legged child had been sleeping in a toddler bed.  Toddler bed, we all know, is code for “crib on the ground”. I know what you are thinking. “What is wrong with y’all? Can you not even manage to get your six-year-old child a decent bed?” And the answer to that is apparently not, at least not in a timely manner. Several times when we’ve had other children at the house, I have overheard them laughing at Sean’s itty bitty bed. And although it didn’t bother…

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Always Real, Money, Parenting Gone Awry

Growth Spurts, Money Jars, The Circle Of Life And Other Things

About a year ago, Sean’s grandmother gave him a money jar which sits on top of his dresser. It is a big plastic jar that looks like a pickle jar, only it has a slot on the top which shows a digital reading of how much money has been deposited.  The digital reading is about as accurate as taking a wild guess, or basically the same formula we are using to determine the actual cost of national healthcare. Be that as it may… Like his father, Sean likes to hold on to his money, so after…

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Parenting Gone Awry

When Leaves Fall Moose Mate

So then, Sean’s homework assignment for tonight was to draw a picture representing fall. I was excited about that project because of the many creative possibilities.  I envisioned that he would draw a field of pumpkins or falling leaves. Or maybe pumpkins or falling leaves. Or something like that. So I gave him a piece of paper and read to him the task as stated on the assignment sheet. Side Bar:  I learned early on in college that if you can figure out what the professor wants and give it to them on time, you can…

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Parenting Gone Awry, School, Snips And Snails

Who Knew Tally Marks To Be Such A Comprehensive Subject?

AD and I are both creative types, so it is not so surprising that Sean is creatively bent as well.  AD is creative in a money-making, problem-solving, making-the-world-more-functional kind of way.  Whereas I don’t know how to do any of that; I just seem to need to swim upstream. Having been upstream a time or two, I know that insisting upon doing everything your own creative way can make life harder than it has to be.  And I don’t want that for Sean.  I want him to understand that sometimes, in certain matters, it’s better to…

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Always Real, Parenting Gone Awry, Sometimes Tart

The Swimming Pool

Recently Sean and I were at our neighborhood pool making the most of a late summer afternoon.  Sean is still not a confident swimmer.  Swimming is just one of those things that he is going to have to come to terms with at his own pace.  I have come to accept that.  I have learned and backed off.  The most I do now is  encourage him to experiment more, to be more adventurous.  To this he firmly says, “No danks!”  No. Way. And we leave it at that. After we had been at the pool for…

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Parenting Gone Awry

And Then I Bought Myself A Rubber Snake

Before I could put the car in park, he was unbuckling his seat belt. We were at Sonic where he is allowed to climb into the front seat with me and eat his burger.   If it’s nice, I open the sunroof and it’s our own version of a picnic.  We’ve been picnicking at Sonic since he was two and it’s kind of our thing that we do together, a time when we talk. Going to Sonic with Sean is special for me because I went there every Tuesday for lunch when I was pregnant.  I hosted…

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Always Real, Parenting Gone Awry

Lessons In Life And Coloring

“I’m not good at coloring!” he sighs.  A gust of exasperation escapes his lower lip making his copper hair fly straight up off his forehead.  For a second, I get lost in his face and forget that he is frustrated and about to cry. “I’m never going to be a good colorer!” His eyes become shiny with tears. I  look at his paper. It looks pretty much like everything else I’ve seen him color lately, which to me, is artistic perfection. I look back at him, not sure what really is needed here. I consider my…

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Parenting Gone Awry

I’m A Play Date Drop Out

On the few occasions when Sean and I have gone to McDonald’s for lunch, I can’t help but to notice the tables of young moms happily chatting and visiting while their children are off playing. Everyone at the table is leaning in and engaged in a lively conversation. While their children are off playing.  How do they do it? How? I have been invited to a handful of these kinds of play dates in my short tenure as a mother, and I have to be honest with you — I do not enjoy it. I find…

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